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COVID-19 Update

As of 21.5.2020 I will be working face to face again in Exeter with those clients who are comfortable with this. My understanding of the current government guidelines and the large rooms there make this possible. I will want to discuss the risks in detail by telephone before meeting, and of course I will be maintaining strict sanitary and distancing measures within the practice room building.

I will continue to see clients online with whom I am already working and am also available to see new clients online or by telephone as an interim, on the understanding that we will meet face to face once the pandemic situation has become clearer and government guidelines make it completely clear that we can meet in this way.

If you’re struggling with some aspect of your life – whether it be regaining control over explosive emotions, or maybe life seems overwhelming and you don’t know what to do next, then I admire your courage for reaching out. When life is at its toughest it can be strangely difficult to ask for help.

Maybe it seems like you’re spending your whole time arguing with yourself, or going round in circles – like a stuck car with skidding wheels. Sometimes we need to find a caring, non-judgmental ‘other’ who can meet us exactly where we are – not where they think we should be. Through this kind of relationship I believe we can start to relax, slow things down, and begin to reflect on what is really going on. As the spinning wheels slow down we find we can get a grip on the road again with perhaps a renewed sense of clarity and direction.

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Here are some issues people have brought to me:

  • Anxiety

  • Anger issues – particularly men’s expression of anger

  • Developmental and other trauma

  • Addictive behaviours

  • Bereavement and struggling to adjust to major life events

  • Depression, low mood and low self esteem

  • Relationship difficulties or Isolation

  • Sexual issues e.g fidelity, fantasy etc.

I also want to support you to take the next step. I work in Exeter on Tuesdays and Wednesdays at the Psychotherapy And Counselling Centre Exeter (P.A.C.) in Barnfield Crescent (EX1 1QT). I work in Crediton on Thursdays from a practice room very close to the railway station (EX17 3DD). We can set up an initial meeting with a view to working together to make the change that you want.

In this meeting we can discuss your needs and see if I am the right kind of therapist that you need, and whether you have the necessary time and energy to give to the process. I won’t pretend that it isn’t tough or demanding work. I believe that it is both these things, but I also believe deeply that it is worth the effort many times over.

Click here to arrange an initial appointment: Fees & Contact

I feel lucky to be doing this work. I love to be with others in an authentic way; to listen, support and nurture the self-compassion that I believe is at the heart of emotional and psychological healing.

My primary approach is called Gestalt Psychotherapy – which is a very wholistic approach, aimed at meeting you here and now, as you are: the good bits the bad bits and everything in between. I also draw on many other approaches and from my own varied life experience. Read more on the How I Work page.

I am an accredited member of the National Counselling Society. Click the video for more details:

For more on my qualifications, and other FAQ’s visit the Getting Started page.

TESTIMONIALS

I add here some words of previous clients of mine or coleagues who have worked with me. It is not possible to give a balanced and unbiased series of reviews because I do not wish to ask all my clients to give that kind of feedback. There are a number of reasons why I feel this way but the primary reason is that I believe it would put them under pressure and put them in quite a difficult position (‘How much to say?’; ‘Can I tell the whole truth?’;  ‘What if I want to return to therapy in future?’ etc). I don’t see that any of this is part of the therapeutic contract and therefore an unnecessary burden that I will not ask my clients to bear.

However some clients and colleagues have offered positive feedback and I felt it would be reassuring to include some of it here to at least give a sense of what is possible in the therapeutic relationship.

A Highly Recommended Counsellor
My time with Matthew has always been extremely valuable. I always have a sense that he cares deeply about whatever I bring to the table. I always leave feeling that I have been thoroughly listened to and understood. And at times his gentle challenges and questions have opened up very useful avenues of self enquiry for me.
He has always been professional, reliable and helpful.
I would highly recommend some time with Matthew.”
Miguel 2017

“For my whole life I have struggled with anxiety and not being able to manage my emotions – particularly getting angry. I decided to seek help, and I’m so glad I found Matthew. I found him very easy to communicate with, and he made me feel at ease and able to be open and not judged.

He helped me understand my feelings and rationalise them through enabling me to understand the sources of those feelings. This made an enormous difference to me, because through understanding them I am able to better manage them. This also made me feel validated and not to blame.

I came to Matthew somewhat confused but open to learn about my feelings, and he helped me understand and manage these feelings in a way that has made a positive lasting difference on my life. I really recommend Matthew because he is easy to talk to and very caring and eager to help.”
Mike 2018